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My grandmother, the time is near.
tlove228

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Posted by tlove228 on Nov 06, 2009 at 12:54 PM

     

Oh, boy. Just got the call from my mother at abour 9:30am, that we are gathering today and tonight to say goodbye to my grandmother. She has alheizmeiers, and has gotten worse and worse. Yesterday, when I saw her, she was barley breathing, and, according to my mom, not swallowing or eating. I know she is ready, and I'm happy she will be okay soon, but it is so hard.

My grandmother was everything to me. She taught me all the qualities I think are good in myself. I haven't been there, for many years. Not to mention I started my own family, but there was a lot of anger and hurt from things that someday I'll write a  book on, but none was her doing. It wasn't her fault she was sick. Not her fault about my mother, or that I rebelled for a while. Not her fault. She was the reason I had a good childhood, or saw parts of the world. She encouraged me. She loved me, probably like no one else every has. She cared. And I love her. And the worst part for me, is that she is the only person in the world who DESERVED to know my little girl. Her great-grandaughter. And she remembered her name, sometimes, and kissed her, and talked to her. But she will never know that she was a monkey for halloween, or that her favorite cartoon is Gabba. She never get  to go down the slide with Mady, or have dinner with her. Or have even a chance to be able to come to Mady's bday party (she was immobile). Yet, there are so many people in this world that take her, my daughter for granted. I wonder what my grandma would have given to be able to do all these things with her. What I would have given to seen her do these things with her.

Grandma, I promise to teach her everything you ever taught me. I will tell her how much you loved me, and retrace our footsteps with her someday. I will never, ever take her for granted, and I promise to cherish my time with her, and someday her children. You were amazing, and there aren't enough words, or tears to tell you how thankful I am, or how sorry I am. It's not fair, but I'm ok with it.

Thank you for my first BLT at the Woolworths counter. Yes, books are my friends, and I will never ruin one ever again. I can't wait to put her in Girl Scouts, and someday when we return to Girl Scout camp, I will tell her all of the great and wonderful times we had there. I will make her fried potatoes, even though I can't slice them or fry them like you. And we will make ice cream sundaes, and watch Picket Fences. I will have the biggest, best dress up box for her, and we will learn to sew together, in honor of you. I will cherish my memories of you forever. I promise. Everytime I remember a memory, I will write it down so I will have then. You were an amazing, strong beautiful woman. I'm proud you were my grandma. I'm so proud. And because of you, I am an amazing, strong beautiful woman, and Madyson will be too. I love you Grandma Ginny. I love you. Thank you.

 


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kansaskim1967

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 on Nov 06, 2009 at 09:19 PM

  

  

What a great tribute.  I had three great Grandma's and I miss them everyday.



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bellasmom1

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 on Nov 06, 2009 at 09:32 PM

  

  

That was wonderful.  I am soo sorry for your loss.  I lost my grandma in 2003 and I really wish she got to see her great grandkids.  But I know she is keeping a close eye on us from up there. 

 

Hang in there you are in my thoughts.

 

  

daisy4mom

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 on Nov 07, 2009 at 12:49 AM

  

  

I will try to type but now that I can't see through the tears I may not get very far. I have so much sadness to my heart for the both of us.  I am so sorry for your loss and boy do I know where your coming from.. I lost my grandma Sepetmber 3rd,,, 3 days befor her 100th birthday. Now I don't have anymore grandparents left alive. But remember how much you were loved and keep all the good memories close.  Sounds like your little one will have a great angle on her shoulders as she grows.



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